THIS. This is exactly what I want to say.
Recently a writer tweeted a comment in reaction to a female politician’s actions.
Women on Twitter correctly pointed out that in their experiences, as actual women, that particular advice
1. Wrongly shifts the burden onto women
2. Doesn’t do fuck all
3. Often has the opposite effect
4. Could be downright dangerous
Instead of actively listening to thousands of women who were contradicting his (likely well-meaning) advice with their real life experiences, he doubled down, effectively proving #3 above.
I guess women asserting themselves more forcefully only works if it’s not back at him.¹
I don’t think this writer’s advice was overtly malignant or malicious. More than likely it was poorly thought out, badly expressed or even just hasty. Or perhaps he really does hold the naive view that saying “No” more assertively is going to change the world. Heck, we all express ourselves badly on occasion. We all hold…
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